Internet Marketing The Crying Game
Have your ever cried about your online business?
Seriously, I will admit I have cried.
Quite a few times actually, and recently was 5 minutes ago.
I tend to cry more from frustration than anything, I hate not knowing how to do “stuff” and it gets me so hot under the collar at times I could scream.
Today, was a particularly stressful day, nothing seemed to be going right from the minute I got out my bed.
That and a few other factors cause me to let it all out.
Like I said I cried about 5 minutes ago, all because of a blog post I read.
Now don’t be rolling your eyes and saying here we go, Sally’s is one of those crazy women who cries at the drop of a hat, because I don’t actually.
It takes quite a build up before the steam comes out my ears.
Even Alex Jeffreys Cries.
If you are a student of Alex Jeffreys you will know he has cried, many times about his online business.
He has told us Katie has had to comfort him and encourage him to keep going forward until he finally found success online.
I am not afraid to admit I have cried, but I never thought a blog post was enough to put a lump in my throat.
The fact someone I only just met, spent their own time to write nice things about my blog was enough to start me crying.
Now I will add to the fact that it probably didn’t help that I was listening to some music Orla Kelly had recommended in one of her blog posts.
The music is so lovely and not something I would normally listen too, but it’s on Paul From Stokes website.
Really beautiful, relaxing, chilling out music, so as I was feeling a tad stressed about falling behind in all my online work, I thought what the heck, I will give anything a try.
Then as I was listening to the music, an rss feed notification popped in for Alex Whalley’s latest offering on his blog.
I don’t know Alex that well, I actually found his blog whilst blog hopping from Scott Barron’s blog.
Scott is the guy who wrote a blog post that scared me.
So from my blog hopping, Alex made me cry and Scott scared me, charming huh!
Since blog hopping I have started to meet so many people from outwith my normal circle of online friends and marketers.
There really is a whole new world of internet marketers and bloggers out there who can help you, you don’t have to play it safe and visit the blogs that everyone else is visiting.
Be different.
Don’t follow the crowd.
Do this and every once in a while, you will meet people that you just click with.
I guess that’s what happened to me with both Alex and Scott, two really lovely guys who know what they are talking about, you would do well to visit their blogs here:
Ok, so this is a really short post, I have already blogged today and this was not on my daily to do list, but I felt I had to live for the moment.
Alex wrote a post titled “Want More Traffic, Join The 12 Blog Program”.
Now as you know I love traffic, I want as much traffic as possible, so I was really eager to read that post.
As I was reading through it, I got the biggest shock of my life.
Sally Neill at number 7.
7 is actually my favorite number how weird is that!
Now remember I was stressed out, having the usual doubts in my mind about failure, I was listening to sentimental, thought provoking music, and I see my name pop up in another blog with such heart warming comments about my blog.
Yes, grab the hankies, that was me, blubbing like a big baby.
Now I don’t care if you are a guy and you are not supposed to cry.
I know every single one of us love praise, both men and women, we love to be told our blog is great, the way we write is fantastic, we love knowing we are helping people.
That’s what it’s all about right?
Helping others achieve their dreams and ambitions online.
We want to find success ourselves so we can pass it on to others.
I don’t want to get too deep into all this kinda stuff, anyway I have ran out of hankies so I can’t start crying again.
But we are in such a wonderful position right now, we have the potential to touch so many peoples lives and to help so many people.
Alex’s random act of kindness really helped me today, on a day I was worrying how I could get everything done that I need to.
So if maybe one day, you can show someone a similar act of kindness, a simple small act of kindness by providing a link to someone’s blog, bookmarking their blog or maybe just retweeting their blog post, you go ahead and do it.
We are all in this together.
It takes you under a minute to do such a simple kind act, and people will reciprocate.
Look at how Alex’s blog post helped me, you might just help a fellow Alex Jeffreys student out there, you may help anyone out there struggling online.
Alex Jeffrey’s taught us to share our pain, so do it, let people know they are not alone.
Sometimes we all have a little cry and it’s ok, it’s nothing to be ashamed or admit too, we are all human after all.
Try to help others, anytime you can.
Spare just 1 minute, it might be all it takes to make a difference to someone.
And if you want to read the post that made me cry it’s here:
“Want More Traffic – Join The 12 Blog Program”
I was in a darker place earlier today, but this restored my faith and got me back on track, sometimes it takes a kind stranger and a future friend to point the obvious out to you.
Don’t be scared of failure.
Don’t be scared of success.
Don’t worry.
Keep at it, keep working hard and I believe success will follow.
Take care everyone, speak soon Sally x
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Twitter: rick_byrd
says:
Sally:
Way to go on making the list of the Dirty Dozen on Alex Whalleys blog. I beleive he referred to you and your blog as the “power of honesty and social proof”. I totally agree. We have not known each other long but I can tell by reading your blog posts and by the way you help others in the forum that you are very honest in how you are building your business and how you build your relationships with others.
You are already an IM star. I need to hang out with you more often.
Keep up the great work and keep on being you!
- Rick
.-= Rick Byrd´s last blog ..Traffic Generation Challenge – What’s Been Going On? =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hey Rick, the dirty dozen haha, so long as I am known for being honest I am really pleased about that. Thanks for your lovely comments, it’s much appreciated, come hang out whenever you want, keeping my eye on your blog, I can see you shining brightly too, Sally
Sally,
The Internet can make you cry but on the very next page you could very well be grining like a Cheshire Cat, we all have them kinda days and even some nights too but the important thing is to carry on, I mean I have been trying to make some money online for the past two years & what do I have to show for it? $20 I made from one of the biggest marketers online, but I don’t think I’ll give up.
Hugh
.-= Hugh Fraser´s last blog ..About these Internet Marketing Launches =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hey Hugh, my dr who buddy, yes it’s kinda up and down working online, one minute your high as a kite, the next your lying down in the gutter crying again! Plays havoc with your emotions. At least you have made a sale online, most people have not even made a single dollar, you just need to improve your methods and I bet you can increase your online profits dramatically, see you on twitter, Sally
Twitter: Alexwhalley23
says:
Are you trying to make me cry now?! I am so super pumped that I wrote that post today of all days now!, glad it put a smile on your dial, can’t have that awesome honest writing style jeopardized.
I totally hear you as well Sally, I lost a few sites once because I was trying to understand SQL databases (never again) and I was a mess! I knew that success was defined by how we react to failure, not how we strived in the good times, but I still felt like crawling into a ball. Im glad you kept on keeping on and then found my post! I look forward to a prosperous blogging future.
Alex.
BTW, Scott scares me too don’t worry
.-= Alex´s last blog ..Want more Traffic? Join the 12 Blog program. =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hey Alex, ha ha, big boys don’t cry right? No I just felt really happy after your post so I am glad you wrote it. My sql is actually one thing I hate online, databases haunt me in my dreams. Got you in my reader so I will be visiting your blog lots, take care Sally
Twitter: Remi_Vladuceanu
says:
Sally,
Sometimes opportunities arise at times and from places we would never expect. I certainly had my bad-days and I’m sure there will be in the future.
One thing I’ve learned from Napoleon Hill’s book – Think And Grow Rich, is that the ‘trick’ is NOT to focus on the bad things that happen or on the things that don’t happen when they should, but to focus on how to get out of that ‘state of mind’.
Take care,
Remi
.-= Remi´s last blog ..What’s All The Fuss About The 30 Day List Building Challenge? =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hey Remi, I think it’s really weird how you find new friends online, that seem to take you in a different direction and help you, I really do think everything happens for a reason, I have not read Think and Grow Rich, shhhhhh don’t tell anyone, I know I should read it, and shall try to get around to it one day, Sally
Hi Sally,
Go ahead and cry. It’s actually good for you to let your emotions out. But… Always Keep The Faith.
Faith strengthens your beliefs
(believe in yourself and what your are doing)
Beliefs raise your potential
(see your potential as virtually unlimited)
Potential increases your results
(strive for the results that can reach your potential)
Results reinforces your beliefs.
(once you have some success, you will believe in yourself with more conviction)
You see, it all starts with faith.
Great website btw.
Tim
.-= Timothy Vincent´s last blog ..10 Easy Steps to Internet Riches =-.
Hey Sally
I bet when you cried reading that blog post you had a huge grin on your face.
There’s no better feeling than when someone else appreciates what you do and Alex was right when he called your blog “the power of honesty”…
We can always rely on you to tell it like it is.
Take care
Dawn Kay
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hey Dawn, yeah kinda mixed emotions, you know me well lol. I think in a way we all look for a bit of reassurance from others, it does boost your confidence when people appreciate what you do, speak soon Sally
Well done Sally on making the top 12.
Great post again you are pumping them out eh!
One make you cry and one made you scared who is going to make you laugh.
Glyn
.-= Glyn Lafferty´s last blog ..How I Have Been Driving Traffic and Optimizing My Blog =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hey Glyn, why do I have a sneaky suspicion it will be you lol, I tend to laugh at anything to be honest, so it’s not a tough job to make me laugh, catch you soon, Sally
Hello Sally:
I love your blog and in particular your honesty. Starting anything new is always a little risky, but the journey and the process makes the positive end result so gratifying. It’s clear you are well on your way.
I attempted to read the post that you linked to (“Want More Traffic – Join The 12 Blog Program”) but came up with an Internal Server Error on AlexWhalley.com. So I’ll try again later. I’d love to read it.
Best of Luck! You’re doing great!
Jerry Cooper
.-= Jerry Cooper´s last blog ..Getting Organized – Using All the Available Tools =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hey Jerry, Alex’s site probably crashed with all the traffic being driven to it ha ha. I have always found it easy to be honest, I think it because I have nothing to hide. I loved your getting organized blog post, you certainly do have a plan mapped out, it’s nice to see someone so organized, speak soon, Sally
Twitter: jblack2012
says:
Sally,
Just stopping by to continue the conversation. I think that with any business, you just have to keep plugging away at it.
What most internet marketers don’t realize is that they are now small business owners, and with that comes the process of actually growing a business, which can take YEARS and not just days or months.
I’ve had customers email me and wonder why they don’t have internet traffic, because they opened their blog just 2 long weeks ago.
It has taken the big players like Darren Rowse, 5-7 years to get where they are now and technically they had it easier due to less competition.
So, don’t get too discouraged. Decide on what you want and keep moving towards it until you get there. Failure is NEVER an option if you want something bad enough.
-Joshua Black
The Underdog Millionaire
.-= Joshua Black | The Underdog Millionaire´s last blog ..7 Insane Customer Magnets That Even My Dog Wouldn’t Touch =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hi Joshua, yes you do need to plug away, those that are still chasing fast cash don’t seem to realize that, I am fully aware this is not an overnight success type business and I am prepared to wait for success and along the way I am happy to help anyone who needs help. I heard that quote the other day in a youtube video “failure is not an option” it stuck in me head, speak soon, Sally
Hi Sally
Well done you, you must feel very proud to be in the Top Twelve and have such a glowing review.
Alex’s site is such a good resource and having his “12 Blogs” (yours included) is a real bonus, I’ll certainly be spending a lot of reading time there.
As for the crying, yes even us blokes do it sometimes, we just don’t admit to it.
Congrats again.
Regards
Ken
.-= Ken Abbott´s last blog ..Building a better business the smart way =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hey Ken, a fellow AJ student
Glad you admitted to crying, nothing to be ashamed of, your dog Jake looks lovely, maybe I will borrow him for a walk one day to help me sort my busy fool head out sometime! Speak soon, Sally
Twitter: baileying
says:
Hey Sally,
What a brilliant post. I’ve just been in a very similiar place too. What timing.
Thanks for the great reminder and encouragement of not to worry.
Many congratulations for making it on the 12 blog list. That is such an achievement and is a testament to your amazing attitude and willingness to help others. You thoroughly deserve it Sally!
Catch up soon
.-= Bailey Ing´s last blog ..Anyone Else Feeling Overwhelmed? Three Simple Strategies To Get You Back On Track =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hey Bailey, ditto, just hopped over to your blog and I see you opened up and bared all, well done you! Nice to know a little bit more about you, stay in touch, Sally
Wow Sally! Thanks for the shout out!
I’m sorry I scared you. When you’re feeling brave, read the follow up comment from Dr. Lauren. She’s a Criminal Psychologist and scared me!
(I noticed Alex’s comment! He should be scared.)
It was funny, I was reading your post wondering what you read that made you cry? Well not funny for you, but pretty amazing that Alex rates us so highly. He has good taste
Your blog is brilliant! Keep up the good work.
.-= Scott Barron´s last blog ..How Safe Are You? =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hey Scott, how you doin? Hope your well, it was tears of mixed emotion lol, yeah Alex is a cool guy I like him, you two are funny they way you argue like an old married couple! I am going to go read the follow up comment now, facing my fears and all that, catch you soon, Sally
Gee Sally, Since I visited last you have been so busy! Wow! I have been busy planning and but I’m in overload mode. I feel stuck. I have a massive plan but haven’t been blogging my progress or feelings. Your page of videos is not unlike something I had planned, except I was going to upload videos to my host. I’ll get on to that today, I promise. There! I’m making myself accountable!
Your blog is looking fantastic. I’ll take a leaf out of your book and post more often.
And yes, I have been frustrated and close to tears too.
Thanks so much for the inspiration.
Gail
.-= Gail Fay´s last blog ..10 Tips For Newbies =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hey Gail, how are ya? Good I hope. Information Overload, the number one cause of failure online, gets us all sometimes so don’t worry about it too much. I put my videos on you tube to try and drive so more traffic to my blog, that’s the only reason I hosted them on there really. Keep your chin up and your head down lol, Speak soon, Sally
Twitter: darrenlcarter
says:
Hey Sally,
Really good post. I went over and checked out what was written about you and I agree! You’ve started becoming a real good influence within our community and I appreciate it. Thanks!
Peace,
Darren L Carter
.-= Darren L Carter´s last blog ..Why You Should Jump Off A Cliff… =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hey Darren, hope your working hard, well I know you will be, such a lovely environment for anyone to work in, must be so relaxing and chilled out, that must be why you smile all the time, catch you soon, Sally
Twitter: hiroadams
says:
Hi Sally,
What a heart felt blog.
Really glad you posted this today.
I am sitting here working my plan all alone, but in reality I am not alone because you are there and a ton of other people who I have had the previlage to know through Alex’s programme.
There is so much to learn, but if we just do what Alex says the success starts to roll in.
Keep going Sister
Hiro
.-= Hiro Adams´s last blog ..How can you make money online? =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hey Hiro, no your are not alone, everyone will help you if you need help, that’s a promise. Keep in touch, Sally
yo yo sally
i haven’t been over for a while..
but we all know why eh..
crazy times girl, crazy..
i’ve had to take a chill pill this week
because i will go loopy with all whats coming
our way.. i was just planning on going to ‘strangers blogs’ from tom’ for a holiday, it is bank holiday
after all, its a good idea eh..my blog post will explin what i think of it all anyway.. he he
be good.. peace.. nicky
.-= nicky´s last blog ..I DON’T CARE ABOUT TRAFFIC! =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hey Nicky, what you been upto, your comments always make me smile, your so energetic sometimes you remind me of Alex Jeffreys. Yeah went a bit loopy myself, had a WHOLE DAY off blog hopping today, will go have a read of your blog now, so you ruined my blog hopping day off lol, catch you soon, Sally
Twitter: mikeroosa
says:
Hey Sally,
I can’t say I’ve ever cried about my online businesses, but I’ve gotten fairly upset with Google a time or two. Like the time, I logged in to Adsense and realized I had 15 clicks but $0.00 earnings! I didn’t realize I had to type in the url that I was allowing access to.
.-= Mike Roosa´s last blog ..Focus, Focus, Focus =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hey Mike, I have made some silly mistakes online too, I once promoted an affiliate product by email and put the direct link in the email instead of my affiliate link! At least your not ashamed to admit your mistakes, we all make them, but we learn from them so that’s the main thing, speak soon, Sally
Twitter: CosmicFaery
says:
Hi Sally,
just popping in to say that I enjoy reading your blog and yes I do like your honesty. Many people pretend they’re successful, but they’re not. I always find that when I admit my business is a little quiet at the moment, that as a result it’s picking up again. Weird, isn’t it?
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hey Christiane, yes some weird things happen online, that’s what makes it so great I think, take care Sally
Twitter: SandyHalliday
says:
Isn’t it amazing how friendly and helpful internet marketers can be? After I explained to an in-law of mine what I did on the internet she asked me what I did for fun! Unless you are part of this great community it’s hard to comprehend that you can have such good online friends and support.
And crying is good stress relief. We all need to let it out one way or another at times. And getting it off your chest by writing down your pain is a fantastic release and plenty of people will identify with you for it.
.-= Sandy Halliday´s last blog ..Effective Time Management For Internet Marketers – Where does the time go when you’re having fun! =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hey Sandy, how you doin? Good I hope
Yes I think it’s great that there are marketers out their who are genuinely willing to help rather than simply take you cash and run!
I suppose the crying thing was good for me in a way, isn’t there a saying….. better out than in, I don’t think it’s good to bottle up your emotions, share them in a blog post and your instantly relieved of the stress, take care, Sally
Twitter: kathydobson
says:
That’s why I come here Sally…you are so refreshingly honest and funny at the same time!
I have absolutely cried many times over this business! Actually, I’ve screamed a few times too
thanks for the most enjoyable blog post…you made me laugh…
I’ll be back!
Kathy
.-= Kathy Dobson´s last blog ..Crave Adventure? Tropical MBA Semester II is Your Answer =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Kathy, your comments are like buses, none for a few days then two come along ha ha.
I am glad my posts make you laugh, I don’t want a boring blog, working online is supposed to be fun, people forget that.
Yes ok, so we have to treat it like a real business but there is nothing to say we can’t have fun at the same time.
Speak soon, Sally
Twitter: icebluebanana
says:
Hi Sally,
I can’t tell you how many times I have said “Alex made me cry and Scott scared me.”
Your really use blogging as a great tool for self-expression! It is so easy to get frustrated and demotivated (if that is a word).
Thanks! Have a great day!
.-= mark´s last blog ..The 21 Blog Program – Increase Your Traffic Now =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hi Mark,
I just say what I want on my blog, it’s my blog and my area to vent my frustration.
I hate to visit blogs that are solely created to sell, no interaction on them, that’s not what a blog was intended for.
Your blog is fab, I love how you write, and you really do paint a picture in my mind as I read your posts.
Catch you soon, Sally
Twitter: NickStentiford
says:
Hi Sally
What an inspiring post….bloody marvellous!! I’m here doing my oil rig hopping at 12.45am UK time after work and have been meaning to come to your site for ages…really glad I did. You seem like a real lovely, genuine lady who deserves to do well!! (By the look of your trffic report you are already doing well!!) You have to give me some tips./…(I dont think I have done 300 in total…so big WELL DONE!!)
Anyway take care, speak soon
Nick
http://www.workfromhomeideas-nickstentiford.com
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hiya Nick,
Thank you, your comment made me smile!
Your a serious blog hopper like I was then, stick at it, it really does bring a truckload of traffic.
I hope to write about my blog antics and share all the strategies I used, so anyone can come along and copy it.
Thanks again Sally
Tears of joy are an awesome thing, it’s great to hear that people are helping you out so much online. I can relate enormously to the frustration of trying to find an audience/build links/all that other stuff that has to be done.
Still, I gotta say – there’s lots of people online and offline who are supportive of my efforts, and your post is a great reminder to me to give them my thanks.
.-= ashok´s last blog ..Why do politicians and pundits lie about government spending? =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hey Ashok,
Tears of joy and frustration sometimes too!
I often forget how supportive my family are with my online business ventures, so I shall take a leaf out of your book, and be sure to thank them.
Catch you soon, Sally
Twitter: TechChunks
says:
Very interesting write-up and I loved the crying part. Been there done that
However, I too believe in — “Be different. Don’t follow the crowd.” motto just like you. All the best
.-= TechChunks´s last blog ..Hacker’s Darling Google; Search Engine Results Continue To Be Attacked – Symantec =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hey TechChunks,
Ha ha, glad people are admitting they have had a little cry, I don’t feel so embarrassed now!
Yes, I don’t want to follow the crowd, I want to carve out my own path.
Thanks for visiting, and admitting you cried ha ha.
Sally
Twitter: Brandon_Connell
says:
I’m gonna cry if Alex don’t fix his email! I am trying to guest post on his blog for a week now. I ended up guesting on Mark’s blog, and Mike’s tomorrow I think. You are next Sally!
.-= Brandon Connell | Make Money Blogging´s last blog ..How I took over as top marketer =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hey Brandon.
Ha ha, I am sure he will get it sorted soon…
I have not had a guest poster on my blog yet, it really is something I should look into.
Catch you soon, Sally
Sally,
You really got the comments on this Blog!
Keep your chin up and thank you for the nice comments you made on Paul Teague’s Blog about me I really appreciate it.
Sorry we have not connected as much lately seems like my life has really been pushing the limits lately so this Blog post here hit home.
Have a new product I would like to bounce of you and see what you think might work well for you as well.
Talk Soon,
Chris
.-= Chris Jenkins´s last blog ..How to Increase Traffic to Websites For Free With Forum Marketing =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hey Chris,
Yeah I get a lot of comments, it’s nice people take the time to leave them and tweet my posts etc, I do always try to return the favor.
I am sure your new product will be great, bounce away.
Sally
Twitter: mrtejkohli
says:
No doubt IM is a cry game, but the winner is the one who’s not a cry baby
.-= Tej Kohli´s last blog ..Creating a Jurrassic Theme in your Kids Room =-.
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hey Tej
Ha ha yes you have just got to fight through the pain and keep moving forward, I.M is not for the weak or faint hearted thats for sure,
Sally